Certain things are better left unsaid...

Why are you telling me now???

What do you expect me to do??? 

Dont expect me to be a home wrecker... it's your own problem that you have to deal with, NOT MINE!!!

These are the words that I wish to tell that someone after he told me that he used to have feelings for me, when he is actually now engaged to be married.

 I wonder what he's thinking, what is he hoping from me to say? All I can say is, "It is the past!!! You are now engaged to be married!!! Don't you get it??? Get a grip on your reality, man!!"

This is one of the downfall of being single. People would think that we are emotionally available, but they have forgotten that they themselves are not! You would feel that your status of being single is being exploited by those guys who are already in a relationship with other women. Couples in love, engaged, or even married. The number one trap that you must never fall into is whenever they say, "I miss talking to you....I miss the experience that we used to share together...." which happens almost everytime when they had a fight with their girlfriends, fiancee or wife. The fact that you are single, lures them to come to you, and say all the forbidden words from an 'unavailable' man.

This would be the time when you, the victim, would think, "He is apparently not happy with his other half..." and somehow, when you innitially forbid yourself from being emotionally available for this man, you begin to break the taboo. And that is when you fall deeply into the neverending snake pit.

At first, as a friend, you talk on the phone while he expresses his troubled mind.. then you start to have lunch/dinner where conversations are much easily engaged... and suddenly, his other half will start to be suspicious of your relationship. That is, if, he told her that he has been contacting you all this while. And so the word 'scandal' begins to rise which later leads to an 'affair' and finally 'the cause of breaking their relationship, home wrecker, the 'other woman', the bitch/slut'.

After all these years, he had to choose when he is engaged to be married, to tell me how he felt about me back then. Though we agreed not to mention this to each other ever again, but I am dead sure, that whatever friendship that we have all these while has been tainted by his 'confession'. I begin to question his sincerity, his integrity.... for all the gestures he did for me, was it all because he had feelings for me? Astonishingly, he said he was indifferent with me all this while, because of the burden that he has been carrying deep inside. He would think that after his 'confession' towards 'self-healing', his conscience would be clear. Well, he is wrong. Now my conscience about him is not clear, and thanks to him, I choose to be indifferent towards him in return, and our friendship will never be the same. For the sake of my own reputation, as my status of being single is seen as my biggest 'alibi' (and I don't even care about whether he is in a bad relationship or what, he has made his decision when asked her hand for marriage) , I choose to stay away from further confliction. 

Dear fellow females, be aware and be careful. Sometimes it is his fault to begin with, for falling for you while he is already in a relationship with another woman, but the end result will somehow turn the arrow around, which will point to you, as the devil. Don't let your feelings cloud your judgement.